It should come as no surprise that I’m ex-haus-ted this week. It’s a good problem to have, given how many fun experiences and projects I’ve had lately. But it’s all caught up to me just in time for a wine country day Saturday and the big 3-0 Tuesday. Here’s what’s helping me attempt to unwind before then:
- Tracey Mammolito Photography: The woman responsible for those amazing photos I shared yesterday, y’all. Tracey’s energy was contagious, she made me feel comfortable (despite looking VERY silly in a public park) and her communication was spot-on. If you’re in SF and need a profesh photog, Tracey’s your girl.
- BachFantasy: This isn’t my first rodeo when it comes to betting on “The Bachelorette,” but it is my first season in a BachFantasy league. The recaps are entertaining, and the spreadsheet is a wet dream for OCD nerds like me. We’re up to the mid-season draft, and although I’m pretty far out of first, I’m hoping my dark horse picks will make a comeback soon.
- Sutter Health: Remember that career leap I mentioned yesterday? Well, today I can officially share I’ve accepted an offer to join Sutter Health as their Manager of Content Strategy and Multimedia! Sutter is a not-for-profit network of doctors, hospitals and health services for millions of Californians, and I couldn’t be more excited to call it my next home. I’ll have more to share soon, but at least that cat’s out of the bag 🙂
- “California Girls” – The Beach Boys: Call me old school, but there’s something about this classic that just puts a sunshiney smile on my face. I don’t know that I’m considered a true Californian at just a few years in, but my family can attest to my lifetime appreciation for The Beach Boys. Bonus: They remind me of my dad, and riding around in his beat-up ‘91 Ford Ranger.
In honor of my upcoming 30th birthday, I’ve researched countless “things to do before 30” lists. And while there are plenty to choose from, I kept coming back to “Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30.”
The List was originally published in Glamour by columnist Pamela Redmond Satran in 1997. Over the next 30 weeks, I’ll be tackling each item on The List and reflecting about it here… publicly (gulp). I hope you enjoy and we can grow together. After all, turning older is a privilege denied to many.
By 30, you should have…
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
Oh, the irony. I’ll celebrate a year with my current company next week, and as with any milestone event, I find myself reflecting. This being a work-iversary (combined with a new calendar year), I’ve given the ol’ résumé and portfolio a makeover — adding new key accomplishments and removing points which are no longer relevant.
So when I saw this week’s topic, I breathed a sigh of relief. Not only because I’ve just been through this process myself, but because I can remember how great it sounded to upsell yourself in your early 20s.
Highlighting leadership experience from your college job is a slippery slope if you haven’t actually led a team. Bullet points with generic phrases can cause a calamity when probed further on interviews. Touting yourself as an “expert” on anything before 25 could raise some eyebrows, unless you’ve got the hours and accolades to back it up.
Now, no one in their right mind would actually lie on their résumé — I’m looking at you, former friend who claims they earned a Bachelor’s degree, but in fact, dropped out with a semester left. But we all (at some point) probably considered the best way to phrase our accomplishments… even when we hadn’t “accomplished” much.
Writers Julie Rottenberg and Elisa Zuritsky provide a perfect example, in a hypothetical manuscript: A job candidate claims to know Facebook. When prompted about how she uses the social platform in her daily role, it turns out she is a Facebook user with lots of friends, and she’s on it daily. This does not a social media manager make.
And while that’s a particularly relevant example for my industry and generation, it’s easy to see how quickly a résumé house of cards can fall apart. The writers explain how everyone’s perspective — from the temp’s to the dog walker’s to the house cleaner’s — is valid. Use whatever experience you do have to sell yourself and what you’ve learned, and why (if applicable) you’re ready to move past it.
It’s tempting in a world of 30 Under 30 lists and constant competition to feel like you haven’t accomplished enough. But setting a standard for yourself — your own life — is what matters. And understanding it’s all a process (and that you will eventually get to where you want to be) can give you the peace of mind to put your résumé out there in an honest and productive way. Ask any recruiter or hiring manager, and the last thing they want is their time wasted by a phony.
After all, “fake it till you make it” only gets one so far… and nobody wants to be known as the person who lied their way into a job.
Side note: If you need résumé help, I’ve lent my services to friends and family in the past. I don’t claim to be an expert, but am happy to edit or help rebuild your résumé from scratch for a nominal fee. Get more info here.
A huge thank-you to all who reached out with messages of love and support after last week’s heartbreaking loss. If I learned anything from Michelle, it’s that you can find reasons to smile even in the darkest of days.
- Little Girl Turns Sister into a Zebra: This may be the new “Charlie Bit Me.” Honestly, is there anything cuter than videos of tiny tots with posh accents? 3-year-old Sovereign took a permanent marker to her little sister’s… canvas… to turn her into a zebra. Why, you ask? Because she “loves being zebras.” Duh, mom.
- Response to Talia Jane’s Open Letter to Yelp: The viral open letter to Yelp highlights just how clueless many millennials are. That’s not to say we aren’t all clueless in our 20s, but now we have the world as a social media stage to broadcast major mistakes. Pro tip: Negotiate for a livable salary, don’t sign a lease you can’t afford, don’t be too proud to live or work in less-than-ideal conditions, and don’t go credit card poor before the ink on your diploma dries. This response puts it far more eloquently than I can in a few sentences.
- “American Crime Story: The People vs. OJ Simpson”: This miniseries is already a few episodes in, but you can still catch up! I didn’t expect to be so captivated, but the always-provocative Ryan Murphy has done it again. It’s chilling, gripping and an absolute roller coaster — the all-star ensemble cast will, no doubt, be nominated for every accolade available. Despite it being more than 20 years since the murders, it’ll bring you right back to the heart-stopping Bronco chase and trial in no time at all.
- “7 Years Old” – Lukas Graham: Something about this song haunts and humbles me. Maybe it’s that he covers a 60-year life in less than four minutes. Or it could be how fragile and fleeting life is, which Graham identifies and reflects on beautifully. Whatever the reason, I can’t seem to stop listening to it on loop.
The Super Bowl was just a few days ago, but it sure doesn’t feel like it… To say I’ve been busy is an understatement! So, what’s the big news?
I’ve taken a new role with Jawbone as a Health Writer/Content Strategist! I’m grateful to all the lessons and experiences I gained in my three years with Macy’s ecommerce, but I’m really excited for a totally different challenge! It’s only day three, but I’ve enjoyed meeting and working and creating (already!) with an awesome group of people 🙂
So that’s about all my brain can handle in terms of obsessions this week, but I think that’s plenty. Have a good week, lovers and friends!